Each theme is curated from years of living this — the research, the meetings, the healing that happened slowly and not always in a straight line. These are not clinical observations. They are the things that actually helped, written honestly from the inside of the experience. My prayer is that you find something here that resonates, that gives you strength, and that reminds you that you are not alone in this.
-Love, Sloane
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What a Relationship Is Supposed to Be
I want to talk about something that I think gets lost in the fog of loving someone through addiction. And quite honestly, this doesn’t even pertain just to addiction. This is quite honestly about loving someone you probably just should not. The baseline. What a relationship is actually supposed to look like. What it is…
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The Grief of Losing What You Envisioned For Yourself vs What You Got
Thematic Post There is a grief that nobody names properly. Not the grief of losing someone. Not the grief of a death or an ending that the world recognises and makes space for. But the grief of losing a future that was never going to arrive. The grief of realising — slowly, over years, in…
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How To Use This Blog As A Healing Tool — A Note Before You Begin
Before you read a single section of these pages, I want to talk to you about how to use it. Because this is not a blog you read the way you read most things. You do not open it on a Tuesday morning with your coffee and scroll through it the way you scroll through…
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THEMATIC POST – My Story — The Lessons That Stayed
Every experience leaves you with something. Not the events themselves — those fade and shift and change shape depending on the season you are in when you look back at them. But the lessons underneath the events. The things that got into you so deeply that they became part of how you move through the…
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Thematic: The Signs That Were Always There — And Why We Could Not See Them
Hindsight is an extraordinary thing. Looking back across more than two decades I can see the signs so clearly that it is almost difficult to understand how I did not see them at the time. The pattern was there from the beginning — not fully formed, not presenting itself with the clarity it eventually would,…
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Thematic: The Boy Before the Man — Understanding Where It Started
I did not need years to see it. I saw it early — in the beginning, back when I was still just getting to know him, still navigating the dynamics within his family, still learning the shape of the world he came from. I did not have language for it yet. I did not call…
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Thematic: There Is No Shame in Loving an Addict
Let me say that again, clearly: There is no shame in loving an addict. Not in staying. Not in leaving. Not in going back. Not in the years you gave. Not in the hope you kept alive long past the point where anyone else would have let it go. Not in the love itself —…
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Want vs Need — Loving because you Want to and not because you need to. The Difference Nobody Tells You About
I want you. But I do not need you. I said this to Carter more times than I can count over the years. And every single time I said it, he heard it as a withdrawal of love. As a warning. As me holding something back from him that he deserved to have. He was…
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You Were Not Placed Here To Be Small
However you believe you got here. Whether you believe a God who knew you before you were formed placed you deliberately and purposefully on this earth. Whether you believe in a universe that conspired across billions of years to produce exactly this specific version of you. Whether you believe in the science of it —…
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THE WOMEN – A LOOKING GLASS INTO BETRAYAL
I usually do a Seasons post with a follow on as a thematic. This subject, I have written differently. It tells of my seasons and is intertwined with the thematic, as it is a subject that is so triggering and so painful – and I did not want anyone feeling triggered without the tools to…
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Where AI Fits Into This Journey (And Where It Doesn’t)
There’s a lot of controversy around AI these days. I know a lot of people are using it to just generate content, whole pages, whole voices – whole stories. When I started using Pinterest, I had to tick a box declaring whether I’d used AI in the content. The honest part of me ticked it,…